Are some of you in a toxic relationship? Or maybe you just have left a toxic relationship and you can’t get that person out of your mind. No matter how hard you want to forget or let go of this certain situation, it just won’t leave you alone.
This is very common. Let's say your last boyfriend or girlfriend had narcissistic tendencies.This person was mean or cruel or just took advantage of you in some way. Not only were they mean at times, they may have cheated on you, violating your trust. Now even though you broke it off, they're still renting space for free in your head.
This is not that unusual. When this happens, we often jump to the conclusion that we’re suffering from some kind of trauma, which is partially true. We think that eventually we will stop thinking about the situation with that person. But there’s more to it than that. Even if we replace the old relationship with a new one, you're not gaining ground because the reasons why you chose that partnership in the first place are still unresolved, which leads us to repeat the same mistakes over and over.
You see your subconscious mind chooses your partners. That’s why you may be attracted to someone, and you don’t know why; this is because our subconscious is making our choices for us. What the subconscious is trying to do is to find someone that will shine light on what needs work in your mind. The point of this is to find someone that you can grow and develop together with. Through this process you become stronger and woven together. It allows you perspective to get to know yourself and your partner better.
One of the primary functions of the subconscious is to keep you safe. Therefore, it’s constantly improving itself. When it knows there’s a problem, it will try to bring it to your attention so you can work on it. The only way it can do this is by bringing certain people or characters into your life that can show you what is out of balance in your mind. This is information that we cannot access on our own, so the subconscious will bring experiences and people into your life to show you what the hidden problems are. At this point where we are supposed to fix and address them. Most of us ignore this part. We think it was just a random situation. Until it keeps happening over and over. Even then we make assumptions, we say to ourselves “all men are narcissistic, or all women are crazy,” which leaves us victims to this never ending cycle.
These events stem from early childhood situation’s and traumas. For example, if you had an alcoholic father/mother or an abusive father or mother, as any child would you naturally want to win that person's love and attention, even though he/she wasn’t capable of giving it. This kind of early childhood trauma makes us seek out a partner that can replicate this situation, in order to heal that old childhood wound. This is what keeps the person you're trying to forget or leave in a holding pattern in your mind. Even if you don’t want them to be there.
This type of issue can be rectified through hypnosis through letting go of these traumas from your past. Once they’re let go of you no longer need or require that problem character in your life. This not only brings you to a place of indifference about the person, it also releases the need to recreate the situation. So the next partner you choose will not be the same.
Hypnosis can free you of this baggage you desperately need to release. Helping you regain your confidence and personal power. This will help clear the way to the happiness you deserve. Reach out today to see how hypnosis can help you.